What matters is saying YES.

Original photo by mike fischer; improved a little by me & Camera+

Recently I happened across one of my old posts, from way back in March, 2004, inspired by an interview I’d read with author Dave Eggers. While my original post is still great in its own right, reading back through his interview (aka rant), I am inspired all over again. I love this:

“The thing is, I really like saying yes. I like new things, projects, plans, getting people together and doing something, trying something, even when it’s corny or stupid. I am not good at saying no. And I do not get along with people who say no. When you die, and it really could be this afternoon, under the same bus wheels I’ll stick my head if need be, you will not be happy about having said no. You will be kicking your ass about all the no’s you’ve said. No to that opportunity, or no to that trip to Nova Scotia or no to that night out, or no to that project or no to that person who wants to be naked with you but you worry about what your friends will say.

No is for wimps. No is for pussies. No is to live small and embittered, cherishing the opportunities you missed because they might have sent the wrong message.

There is a point in one’s life when one cares about selling out and not selling out. One worries whether or not wearing a certain shirt means that they are behind the curve or ahead of it, or that having certain music in one’s collection means that they are impressive, or unimpressive.

Thankfully, for some, this all passes. I am here to tell you that I have, a few years ago, found my way out of that thicket of comparison and relentless suspicion and judgment. And it is a nice feeling. Because, in the end, no one will ever give a shit who has kept shit ‘real’ except the two or three people, sitting in their apartments, bitter and self-devouring, who take it upon themselves to wonder about such things. The keeping real of shit matters to some people, but it does not matter to me. It’s fashion, and I don’t like fashion, because fashion does not matter.

What matters is that you do good work. What matters is that you produce things that are true and will stand. What matters is that the Flaming Lips’s new album is ravishing and I’ve listened to it a thousand times already, sometimes for days on end, and it enriches me and makes me want to save people. What matters is that it will stand forever, long after any narrow-hearted curmudgeons have forgotten their appearance on goddamn 90210. What matters is not the perception, nor the fashion, not who’s up and who’s down, but what someone has done and if they meant it. What matters is that you want to see and make and do, on as grand a scale as you want, regardless of what the tiny voices of tiny people say. Do not be critics, you people, I beg you. I was a critic and I wish I could take it all back because it came from a smelly and ignorant place in me, and spoke with a voice that was all rage and envy. Do not dismiss a book until you have written one, and do not dismiss a movie until you have made one, and do not dismiss a person until you have met them. It is a fuckload of work to be open-minded and generous and understanding and forgiving and accepting, but Christ, that is what matters. What matters is saying yes.”

~ Dave Eggers


UPDATE JULY 17, 2013: Loving all the traffic coming towards this post, inspired by our Yes by Yes Yes ‘nonconference’ last weekend! Our YEStival and this post are totally unrelated, but I’m thrilled to have it be flying across everyone’s radar again. It’s certainly representative of the spirit & ethos that was amongst the 400 awesome attendees who said YES at YxYY last weekend, and is clearly striking a chord with many others, too. Yay! Thanks for being here.

YxYY Say yes

You may also enjoy my follow up post to this one, Is it a Hell Yeah? If not, don’t do it. ;)

For those of you who don’t know, Dave Eggers is one of the brilliant minds behind literacy project, 826 Valencia and independent publishing house, McSweeney’s, among many other things

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